Why Do People Cheat
Is One Partner Not Enough?

Men are dogs. Ok, some men are dogs. I have been cheated on, time and time again. See, I think they just get bored or something of that sort, because even now mine has been caught trying to do more than window shop. And each time it was with one that was bigger than I. So be happy with yourself, and to hell with them.. Besides, we can live without them. That is why we have hands and they made vibrators...   —Rena

What's the three words you never want to hear while making love? Honey, I'm home.   —Ken Hammond

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From Joe
My girlfriend cheated on me last week, I found out because I went to her apartment and was just about to knock on the door when I heard her moaning, so I went outside and peeked in her window and saw some guy on top of her on the couch, she had her legs up on his shoulders and he was just plowing away at her. He had a huge penis it was at least 9 inches long and really thick, at least twice as big as mine. He didn't even have a condom on and we have always used one, we have been together two years now. They did it for about 20 more minutes then he came in her.

 I haven't told her I know she is cheating but just watching them I could see how much better sex with him must be, I know he stretched her a lot, the next day she only wanted oral and she told me to suck it gently so I know he hurt her.

From LeRoy
I have been married for 33 years and have fantisized about other women and have even went on lunch/dinner meetings/dates with female colleagues at work who have suggested we get together. Well what in hell would it be called getting together. I refused to get physical but the conversations are very provocative and interesting to say the least.

My wife has the sex drive of a toad. She has become physically unattractive and her health has went to hell because of poor decisions made from doctors telling her what to do. I have been fortunate to be in relatively decent health, I walk and exercise, she won't even walk. I've asked her repeatedly to walk with me and talk. We don't have sex because she either doesn't care to, or if we do she makes a comment like "I'm gonna just lay here, you do the work". Wow, what a sensual thing that is. No wonder I have ED.

When I read these posts about why men cheat I find one comment used most regularly. "BOREDOM" I couldn't agree more with a saying I read recently, a quote from mother or grandmother to daughter "if you don't take care of your man, someone else will". I use a different shake in business that's on the same note. "If you don't take care of your customer someone else will". I'm in my twilight years of working and refuse the thought of divorce. It would change my life drastically.(financial and mental)

I've been intimate friends with my right hand for almost all of my married life and will most likely continue that relationship. My wife would be revolted if she knew. She used to use sex as a tool to get the things she wanted, that quit working a long time ago. It really pissed her off. Looking back I should have changed direction 25 years ago, but hindsight is 20/20 and we can't change the past.

To cheat or not to cheat, that is the question and cheating is not the answer. Men choose your spouse carefully, and never get married if you like variety, unless you get a rare women who understands how to keep things interesting.

From Gigit
My first husband got his secretary pregnant with twins. My second husband was much older than me and became disinterested in sex because I had gained weight and he wanted a "better target".  Needless to say, it was years before I got back in the game as my self-esteem was too low to feel sexy.  The icing on the cake was when I got breast cancer and had a mastectomy at age 47!  I never expected to find a man who would ever be interested in me, despite the miracles of modern plastic surgery.

Well, I decided to re-invent myself and start on-line dating.  Somehow when I got all dressed up and became the new persona, I felt and acted sexy!   At this point I was 50 years old, a few extra pounds, and one fake boob, but I had more dates than I could handle!  They were all married men.

These were handsome, sexy, professional men; and they were all up front about their marital situation.  Most had been married for over 20 years, the kids were grown and out of the house, and their wives just weren't interested in them anymore!  All I had to do was flirt, listen, and treat them like they were the sexiest man I had ever met.  I listened to their fantasies, and, if possible, I made it happen.  For the first time in my life, I was in control, I was sexy, desirable, and getting what I needed.

Women should know that their husbands cheat because they want to feel like a sexy stud again.  Their bodies are 50, but in their minds, they want to perform like they are 20 again, and many do that first time!   Almost every man told me that their wives no longer give blowjobs, and certainly never swallow, so I did!  I love oral sex performed on me, so I shaved smooth and wore sexy lingerie; men love that!

The thing is that men are just as romantic as women, have a rich fantasy life, and most truly love their wives.  If/when they cheat, it is 1-2 times, and they feel so guilty that they quit. I was told many times that I remind him of what he "once had" at home, and he was going to try again.  I listened, then happily sent them back home.  Many are still email friends, nothing more.

Men cheat for different reasons than women do, but that is another story. 

I certainly don't advise women to take the route that I took.  Mine was a unique situation and perhaps what I needed to validate my own sexuality.  If you are just looking for one-night stands without any drama, you will do well with married men.  I made the mistake of falling in love and after 4 years, he still has not left his wife.

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