Losing Your Virginity

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From No Pain, Much Gain!
Ladies, ladies ladies. Do not ever have sex if you are not ready, and truly in the mood. After discussing my personal experience with that of my best friends, I concluded that being mentally and emotionally prepared for sex is the only way to have a pleasurable—at least non-painful—first experience.

I lost my virginity during a one-night-stand with a sexy, confident, experienced and satisfying man. It was the 2nd semester of my freshman year in college and he was the best friend of my friend's boyfriend. We never talked again, needless to say that evening remains one of my most enjoyable sexual experiences (it's been about 1.5yrs and I've definitely had more experiences).

I had received oral sex and been fingered, but no one was like this man. He was approximately four years my senior (22), and very smooth. He put the moves on me like you wouldn't believe, which brings me to an important point: Foreplay is key—good foreplay! He planted deep, wet kisses on my neck veeeery slowly and did not neglect to use his tongue.

He did not know I was a virgin, but continued to take his time because, of course, he was trying to put the moves on me to get me in the mood. To make a long story short, I was extremely aroused before he went below the border. By the time he started fingering me, I was so wet and so open, I could hardly feel his fingers, and believe me—my pussy was tight (well hell..it still is).

He took his time, and by the time his penis finally entered me, my mind was reeling! As soon as he entered and began thrusting, I felt like my head was going to explode. I can honestly say that I've never had such a (near) orgasmic experience since then (kind of sad, I know, but I've still had good experiences).

LADIES, PLEASE LEARN THIS LESSON: When you are mentally and emotionally prepared, have been fingered enough to enjoy the experience (and preferably broken your hymen), and have decided to engage in sexual intercourse with a (skilled) partner you are comfortable with—or hell, if you know that you just want some dick—then, and ONLY then, will you be able to experience a painless first experience.

I had tried before, with someone I loved, but it hurt so badly because I didn't know if he truly cared; my emotions, and the lack of his, got in the way. Emotions are a wonderful thing; in that case they prevented me from being mentally comfortable enough to losen my muscles. While I was not emotionally connected to the man I lost my virginity to, I was in the mood. 

It's not about simply wanting to have sex, or thinking you're ready; you must feel it. That isn't the case with everyone, but it was for me. I knew it was right, even though my partner was not "Mr. Right". At the end of the day, if you have to convince yourself to have sex, or your partner must, it is not the right time. Love or not, you may be inexperienced, but you will be ready when it is time.

I hope this helps ladies. Just hold out until the time is right. It won't hurt if you wait until it's right, I promise.

From Emily
I lost my virginity last night to my boyfriend of about two months. We actually did it in his car (classy, right?). I'm glad to say that despite the location, it was overall a positive experience.

When we went out that evening, I think we both knew that sex was a possibility,  had just gotten on the pill and we had been discussing it for a while. We started out like we typically did during a make out session; kissing, cuddling, etc. After about half an hour we both ended up in nothing but underwear. We stopped for a moment, and he asked me if i wanted to have sex. I told him I was really nervous, and he told me that he was too, (he was a virgin as well). He left the final decision up to me, which I think was really respectful. I could tell that despite his nerves, he really really wanted to do it, and even though I had heard that it would most likely be extremely painful, i wanted to do it too. After removing our underwear, we held each other for a minute, which gave me some time to mentally prepare for what was about to happen.

It didn't take too long for him to penetrate me the first time. It hurt so much that I dug my nails into his back and gritted my teeth. But even though I was in pain and did not have an orgasm, I had this amazing feeling of closeness and trust with him that was like nothing I had ever experienced.

And now for some advice for those thinking about loosing their virginity: Before you have sex, I think the most important thing you and your partner need is mutual respect and trust. Sex is a big deal, so don't do it until you feel completely ready. If your partner pressures you or tries to rush you, that's a sign that they only care about themselves, not about you or your feelings.

From Mary
I'd like to get my hands on the guy who took my virginity when I was a mere 15, he was 28. What did I know? Nothing. Yes the jerk was considerate, right up to penetration, then he went at it like a sex starved cave man.

One minute he's all like nice and gentle, and I was feeling a real nice sexual buzz, and the next minute he's slamming into me like a steam hammer and it hurt like hell. Then he's coming and groaning and grunting like a sweaty pig, cleans up and he's out of there like bat out of hell. Jerk. And he's got the nerve to call a week later - a whole week! Looking for more sex no doubt. I told him to eat shit and die.

I guess I should be a bit thankful. He taught me to wise up, wait until I really know the guy before becoming lovers. A good man is worth waiting for, girls. Don't waste your sexuality on idiots who think with their dicks rather then their brains.

From Lacey
I lost my virginity about a week ago. My boyfriend is a few years older than me and much more experienced. We've been dating for 6 months and for a long time we'd put sex off, doing everything in between. I knew he'd wanted to have sex soon after we started giving each other oral, but I knew I wasn't ready. But after waiting for awhile he finally asked if we could and I said yes. The first time we tried it didn't work, not for lack of trying or lack of fore-play, he just couldn't fit and when he tried too hard to fit himself in, I was brought to tears.

It took almost two weeks of trying for him to finally get himself in and honestly it still hurt a lot. I didn't get any pleasure out of it, other than knowing we'd finally done it, and I had bleed. Even the next day I was still sore. But the next time we did it it felt better, and better then next. So all in all I'm glad we waited and that I waited for someone I truly care about and trust

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