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From Robert
My first Cyber experience was with my now wife. Back when we were first deciding that we liked each other as more than friends. We had been friends for a year and a half when we found that we both had feelings for each other. So we began spending a lot of time together and when we couldn't be together, we were online together. So for my birthday we met for desert and then each went home. We hopped online and found each other. We began chatting and one thing led to another and we had a wonderful cyber experience. And really moved our relationship along.

We used the internet as a safety blanket to discuss things that either we wouldn't say face to face, or to discuss others on a much more honest and deeper level. We've been together now for more than 5 years.

From Belinda
I have had some good fun with cyber sex. I guess I have done it with about a dozen guys, and one other girl. With the girl it was a real surprise, we were chatting and then she just asked me straight out. Next thing I am sitting in front of my computer naked while she was telling me what she wanted to do to me ... it was wonderful, so sexy and I had an orgasm. That chick really knew how to float my boat. It might have been because it was another chickie that got me going, who knows? It's something I think about but would never do for real, you know?

Most of the guys were a little boring, I'm sure they would come but I had to pretend most of the time, a couple of times I did for real. I see cyber as a bit of innocent fun, you can't get pregnant doing it and if it makes you feel good and the other person feels good then why not, right?

But the one I want to talk about was this nice old guy who contacted me from a forum I was on. He e-mailed me and said I seemed sexy and wanted to know if I would be interested in sending sexy e-mails. I liked how he was honest, he told me he was 67 and had a wife but they don't have sex any more, he wanted to but she didn't. I felt sorry for him but I liked him as well so I agreed. I would e-mail him about my fantasies and eventually he started telling me what he would like to do to me. Sso we got online aol and began chatting. We started cybering and I think it was the taboo idea of an old guy having me, and the thought he was really getting off talking to me that I enjoyed.

I would tell him what I would do to him, and he would say what he wanted to do to me. For a nice old guy he certainly turned nasty when he got excited, some of the things he said he wanted to do was almost disgusting. I imagined he would look like the old man next door so when I saw my neighbour I began to look at him a little differently after that. Anyway, he talked me into buying a pair of black satin panties and asked me to come in them, then seal them in a plastic bag and sent it to him .. he was in America. I did this for him but I was starting to feel a little strange about it, although I told myself how much he would enjoy them. I made sure I mailed from a post office and didn't give my real address.

He kept asking for photos and sent me one of him sitting naked at the piano. I refused to send him my photo, I wanted to keep it all anonymous. He started asking me to do stuff which I thought was weird, but I did them if I could. If I couldn't I would pretend I did them. Things like going outside in the nude, going to the beach and skinny dipping etc. In the end I had to end it because he got too wierd. He started saying he wanted to come to Australia to see me, but when he suggested me doing bestiality, that was it!! no way Jose! This guy was a sicko and I wanted nothing more to do with him, so I just stopped going on aol. He sent a number of e-mails I deleted, eventually he stopped sending them.

I am so thankful I never gave him my real personal details, so I suggest to others that they never do this for their own safety.

From Richard
All food for thought, here's my ha'pennyworth. I'm 35, my wife 33, we've known each other for 18 years, have been together for 9 and have 2 kids (one 3 one 5). I've written some words about cybersex, a few comments on what has worked for us and a few thoughts for the cybersexer's and the cyber'jilted'. Cybersex has enriched our relationship through encouraging and enriching our own communication.

My wife has an on-going and positive relationship, via email, with a cyber boyfriend (her name for him). I am very grateful for his input into our relationship and have told him so. After each of our kids she went through a blue patch of about 2 years and lashed out at those closest to her. Having someone removed from our domestic situation that re-enforced my own opinion (that she is very sexy) AND told her so. As well as talking dirty and letting her explore her sexual nature and the 'naughty' side of her personality has been a great release for her and a great benefit to us. In this sense he has been a great friend to us both.

I take pictures of her for my own pleasure and she said that she would like to share these with him. I agreed and so compiled some pictures varying from naughty to hardcore (I had never taken them with the idea of sharing). Now when she knows that he will see the pictures she gets very horny and our love making has become more intense than ever before (mind you it has only got better, though less frequent, throughout our relationship). It turns me on to know that another person finds her desirable and masturbates to her pictures!

This has worked well, she is more secure and happy in our relationship than I have ever known. I feel truly happy to be with her and we both feel in love with each other and our kids. Having a 'trusted 3rd party', that tells her how beautiful she is, and compliments her often, helps my case when I say the same. We have new found confidence in our relationship and now communicate with each other better than we ever have. 'cyber-sex' has been of great benefit, has helped us through some of the most difficult times in our relationship and has helped my wife though her insecurities as a mother.

I guess the real lesson here is that this is something we have done together, at our own pace. We have clearly communicated with each other as we go along, NOT so that one of us can put the brake on, BUT so that we can share and grow together. I understand that not all cyber sex is positive and from many of the postings I can see that it clearly isn't for many relationships. For us it has worked and long may it continue!

To those secret married or partnered cybersexers out there, I guess I would say, pick your time to talk about these issues, i.e. not after a long day, with the kids screaming in the background! But DO TALK ABOUT THEM, perhaps express them as a fantasy first and say that you would like to explore them. Perhaps say that you NEED TO SHARE this because you love and trust your partner and want them to understand 'the whole you'. In our case my wife is my lover, partner and friend and both of us feel that we can talk about these things. That said, you should use your own judgement, don't inflict unnecessary pain on those you love. If you have expressed it as a fantasy first then you can give the whole thing time and you can explore it slowly together. Or the answer may be to not talk about it at all, but then you risk being found out and as you can see from many posts that is CATASTROPHIC for your relationship.

For those 'jilted' cyber widows/widowers I would say, explore this side with your partner. You may, like me, grow to find it a useful and enjoyable part of your own relationship that increases the trust, love and communication that you share with your partner. It may even blow their mind that you feel happy and confident that they should explore this with your involvement and consent. This way you get to be involved and you can jointly set the ground rules. I could be wrong about all of this but the passion and love that we share make me think not.

From Anonymous
I currently cybersex with two men. The first man lives in the same city, I have met and had sex with him in real life, and he is aware of the existence of the other man. This first man is someone whom I consider a true friend, he is very kind, considerate, extremely open minded and very sincere and genuine. He has many other partners both online and off and seems ok with my dalliance with the other man. My local guy often IM's me early in the a.m. and will masturbate for me on cam while I encourage him and I love it. He is extremely provocative and definitely sexually liberated. He is aware that I eventually want a one-on-one relationship and, while he could never be bound by those constraints, seems to genuinely want to enjoy just whatever time we have. I have an equally wonderful time enjoying phone sex with him as well. He is an exquisite lover and just a tremendous friend as well.

The other man lives in a distant city (about 5 or 6 hours away). I met both through a dating site I joined, coincidently I met them both on the same weekend. This other man is somewhat younger than I am and he totally took me by surprise. I had anticipated that any cyber experiences I engaged in would be sexual exciting to be sure, but I didn't expect the passion that I feel for my younger lover. He completely slipped in under my radar. He tends to choose words that reveal a very sensual nature; he often talks about sights, sounds, textures but not in a contrived or planned sort of way. His words seem as if he has just blurted them out, and in fact when I have spoken with him on the phone, this has turned out to be true. I've spent a lot of time trying to assess his sincerity and every "test" I can think of to judge that seems to be coming back positive. 

I don't know how else to describe it except it feels like the online equivalent of sparks flying when you first meet someone and are instantly attracted to them. Eyes meeting across a crowded room, that sort of thing. I am just tremendously attracted to him, I can't really explain why. Normally when I fantasize, I do not fantasize about one specific person, except for him. I can fantasize about sex with him and only him and experience incredible orgasms. He is the first person I can truly say this about.

I never would have believed that I could be this attracted to someone with whom I have not actually met, but it is true. I think what makes it even more exciting for me is that I believe he feels the same way. The other day when we were on the phone he was trying to tell a sexy story for my pleasure (God bless his dirty little heart) and when trying to describe my seduction of a young man, he was telling me this fictional young man would go to his bed at night and masturbate while thinking of me. I interrupted him by saying, "Like you do?" to which he replied with a very intense, "God yes". He thrills me to my very core.

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