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From Candy
I just got a set of Ben Wa Balls. I didn't expect to get any pleasure from them and I was right. I was so scared they wouldn't come out easily but it was very simple, as long as I didn't freak out about it and get nervous. After wearing them one full day my fiancé was amazed by how tight it made me, almost too tight. I am in love!

From Darlene
I am not sure that you understand the purpose of the ben wa balls. They are like "little dumbbells" for your keigal/PC (orgasm) muscles. This is also the muscle group that controls your bladder. Ben Wa balls are designed to help strengthen these muscles to increase bladder control and to increase the intensity of you orgasms, normally they will also make your vagina feel tighter during penetration. They can not get lost or wonder around, as your vagina has only one opening and that is out. If you are in labor and are dilated and if the ben wa balls are small enough they could possibly cause a problem during that time. I find it hard to believe anyone in labor would insert them then...

Ben Wa balls can be used during sex for extra stimulation, however you are not going to feel a lot while just walking around with them in. You should be able to feel them and for many women it will be a pleasurable feeling; however I would not go buy them to finish the job if you know what I mean.

From Robert in Euless
I've recommended these goodies to a number of women that have a condition known as as prolapsed uterus (or prolapsed cervix)... usually after a childbirth or two. Sometimes the cervix drops downward into the vagina following childbirth which creates two distinct pockets (fore-&-aft) within the vagina. My general favorite is the duo-toned ben wa balls (slightly smaller in size when compared to a golf ball) will reshape the vagina to a forward (anterior) directed shape that will line the entire vagina up to get the best g-spot stimulation.

For those women I have know that suffer from a severe prolapse (or just when I want a different sensation), I present them with a pair of the larger "hand exerciser" balls with those wonderful chimes inside. These are meant to be twirled in the hand, but if you drill them out, use a body-friendly cording to connect them and coat them with a body-friendly material to seal them against rusting... these larger balls actually make for a tighter fit and whether used for pre-sex preparation or for use with masturbation, they produce a level of toning to the vagina that has to be felt to be believed (by both partners). A pre-sexual wearing time of at least 6 hours provides great results.

Oh, and since the subject has come up a few times within this topic... ben wa balls cannot drift away and become lost within the body. I've also heard this worry expressed by a number of women I've known. With the exception of the tiny Os (the opening of the cervix which is only a few millimeters in diameter) the vagina is a "closed unit." Please do not worry about inserting the balls and having them drift throughout your body.

From Lesly 
A Ben Wa (the "Greater Ben Wa") is a mythical creature. The male of the species is said to have been hunted by female inhabitants of Toyland because its balls had the power to excite a woman into having an orgasm when inserted into a vagina and left there for a while. Many women reported a feeling of fullness and arousal when the ben wa balls were in their vaginas. Their greatest use is reported to be by women going solo, if you get my drift. (Statistics reported from various sex toy shops.)

Unfortunately, the species became extinct because so many males were castrated in order to harvest their balls. Thus, today we have the inferior product offered by sex toy shops - made of metal and having a mass inside each ball which can move around and thereby excite a lady.

A smaller creature, the Lesser Ben Wa, is rumored to have once existed. It was a much smaller creature whose balls were quite smaller than those of the Greater Ben Wa. Those balls were commonly strung together and used as ANAL BEADS - quite nice for men or for women. Insertion and removal of the modern version is also a special sporting event, by followers of the "Back Door Method." A partner is usually involved, rather than doing this by yourself. Pulling out the 'necklace' is considered quite a sport by some 'perverts', which means most of us.

From Dee Ann
I was a little nervous at first when my husband inserted them but as I calmed a bit the pleasure was great. First use we went to a movie and setting there the balls moved clanging each other making me very warm. I found myself rocking in the seat and bringing on a powerful orgasm. Now as a practice he places the balls just before we go out on our private evenings and we both enjoy the results!

From Megan
During my last visit to the sex shop, I spotted a pair of Ben Wa balls and decided to try them. When I took them up to the counter, the woman working asked if I had ever used something similar before. When I said that I hadn't, she suggested that maybe the Duo-??? balls would be easier to start out with, as the Ben Wa's were quite heavy. After taking a look at what she was describing, I decided to go with the little golden Ben Wa's, without the string, as opposed to the larger, white, plastic Duo-?? ones. When I got home and had a chance to try them, I found out that they were actually not that hard at all to hold in, and they were comfortable.

After wearing them for some time, not experiencing any of the stimulation I had heard some people receive from wearing them, I had chalked them up to being nothing more than an exercise tool. Then I discovered something by accident while wearing them at work... I had forgotten I was wearing them, and one started to slip out, while the other was still fully inside... the rhythm of walking was making them move and bump against each other, and it felt AMAZING! Now I love them... they make work so much more enjoyable... and no one even knows they are there!

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